Friday, November 15, 2013

Types of Love.

What is love ? Sometimes we all think about this
Great writers, poets and philosophers have all tried to decipher it some succeeded many didn't. CS Lewis in his book The Four Loves. Affection (storge), Friendship (philia), Romance (Eros), Unconditional Love (Agape). 

Affection: It is fondness on people of our family or on people we accidently meet.The second one is pretty cool, I accidently met two world travellers Rimvydas & Nopal Ito about one year ago while travelling and I developed a kind of affection with both of them till today we are still in touch (presently they are in Australia planning their next big adventure). 


Friendship: This is very unique, starts with common interest or for some favours or help from people around us, later buds into friendship which lasts for a lifetime (unless one of them goof ups). True friendship is almost becoming rare "decet rara" as the latins would say.  Lewis goes on to say, "to the Ancients, Friendship seemed the happiest and most fully human of all loves; the crown of life and the school of virtue. The modern world, in comparison, ignores it"


Romance: What better way to start than by quoting Shakespeare

                                              Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind,
                                             And therefore is winged Cupid painted blind.
                                                  (A Midsummer Night's Dream )
Everyone say this hardly anyone follow it anymore. I think there is no lucky person, than the one who loves his/her best friend. If the relationship goes south it may end up you be alone, but if blossoms nothing will be more appealing than this.  What we should able to differentiate is the being in love with a person and wanting a person. the second won't be called as romance it will be lust (though many will disagree). Romance is fulfilling lust is not.

Unconditional Love: This is perhaps the best of all and is a divine virtue found in us. Here we help people regardless who are they are without expecting even gratitude in return.If people all around the world could develop this, may be world will be a better place to live. 


To end I will quote a opening paragraph form a movie The Holiday.


"I have found almost everything ever written about love to be true.  Shakespeare said, ''Journeys end in lovers meeting. '' What an extraordinary thought. Personally, I have not experienced anything remotely close to that...but I'm more than willing to believe Shakespeare had. I suppose I think about love more than anyone really should I'm constantly amazed by its sheer power to alter and define our lives. It was Shakespeare who also said, ''Love is blind. '' Now, that is something I know to be true. For some, quite inexplicably... Love fades. For others...love is simply lost. But then, of course, love can also be found. Even if just for the night. And then there's another kind of love. The cruelest kind. The one that almost kills its victims.  It's called unrequited love."